A mother's message to her 8-year-old swimmer undergoing therapy: I know things feel hard right now, and that’s okay. Everyone feels worried sometimes. You don’t have to be perfect — you just need to try your best. If something feels too big, you can always ask for help. Papa and I love you no matter what — not because you win medals, but because you’re YOU.

Little J entered the "freaking fours," determined to test every limit I had. After one meltdown, I made a mistake...

I don't expect you to be happy all the time. I hope you embrace your true self, feel all your emotions, and keep trying even when you fail.

With the journey of trauma, resilience, and attempts to reconcile with estranged parents, I wish to offer hope to those seeking healing.

After 13 years away, I returned home for Lunar New Year with my child, seeking reconciliation with my parents and healing old wounds.